Lawyers, Mediators, and other legal professionals, let’s get one thing straight. I’m not here to take money from your pockets, or food from your tables.
I’m very fully cognizant that people will be in conflict no matter what, and that there will be times when your services are required. That’s why the “legal system” is in place, and why “alternative dispute resolution” is a process we embrace.
When you take the time to understand the Mediation is Dead frame of reference, you’ll see that I’m making your lives easier. Those people who understand how to communicate better won’t be calling your office six times a day to tell you how bad their soon to be ex husband is, and they won’t be so adversarial at the table when it comes time to settle. They’ll know how to communicate, and will have improved communication skills those who don’t read MiD or study the conflict-free life won’t possess.
That translates to less time at the bargaining table for you, less time for you spent in trial prep, and more client retention and happiness.
Isn’t that what we want as professional conflict resolvers? Isn’t that why we got into this business, to help people and maybe make a little money doing it in the process?
If you’re not in that frame of reference, if you don’t want to be in a position where you can be someone who works with “conflict-free life” people, then that’s cool. Keep doing your thing. Me, I’m going to do mine, and make sure that people who want to learn how to live life absent conflict have the tools to do so.
By the time Mediation is Dead is a finished product, you’ll be glad I brought this mindset to the world. And it’ll make your professional lives a lot easier, and your business more profitable.
(By the way, if you’re not a legal professional, I totally knew you were going to read this. That’s why attention management is key in the MiD life.)